You're Not Helping!

Caitlyn Davey • July 8, 2025

I deal with women and their diets every single day, they come to me because they are struggling with something, maybe they are not happy with their body, maybe they don’t know how to maintain their weight loss, maybe its health, fitness, strength, or mental. BUT almost every single person I sit down with wants to improve their body composition above all else. Of course, it is, people say “no it’s not”, but break it down enough. Yes, it is. ? We all want a better body, every one of us wants to be able to stand in the mirror and look at ourselves and think “that’s a bit of alright, I am happy’ but it is a very hard thing to do subjectively after living a certain way, or with a certain mentality for a period of time, and the world of social media is not helping at all.? That’s why we have to work on peoples behaviour and mindset from the start about who they are and why they are doing this. We have to change the way people look at themselves, we have to empower people, build them up, give them a result mentally/physically. ? BUT there is a way we should do this and there is a way we should not. ? Time and time again (and this is a bit of a rabbit hole, so I will try and get my point across well) I fucking wish people would stop acting like everyone is just perfect the way they are especially when this plays with their health and wellbeing.? Someone comes to me overweight in need of help and really unhappy with the way they feel and look. Yet they hide this from friends and family because they are trying to be way braver then they need to me. I have had one person say to me ‘I feel like I am letting women down’ now that is mental right!? not for her to say that, but for her to feel like wanting to improve is negative.   ?When I asked why she would say that, she said “Women everywhere are fighting for body acceptance whatever shape they might be, yet I am wanting mine to change and be better even though I am not in the worst shape I have been” so after we spoke about some pretty deep issues and she left feeling ready and confident.Then their friends and family are saying things like “you’re perfect the way you are, you don’t need to change at all you need to embrace your body for what it is”?I understand the positivity you are wanting to spread but I believe that is not helping if anything you are being detrimental and disempowering. This person after a hell of a long period of time has plucked up the courage to ask for help, no one does this on a whim, it isn’t a spur of the moment thing. They want to make a change to better themselves so they can lead a happier healthier life internally, externally, mentally and physically. ??This doesn’t mean they hate themselves because hating yourself isn’t really a reason to want to lose weight. You can still love who you are, regardless of weight but still want to chase self-improvement to be the best version of yourself. I think people miss this point, there is a difference between self-love and self-acceptance. How about we love ourselves so much we want ourselves to flourish and become the best we can be? Love the body we are in, yet want to improve its ability to function to its full capability. ???But people are starting their journey and next minute you’re telling them they don’t need to do it?! WHAT THE FUCK. How about show support, have understanding. It is not your body, it is not your mind, you have no idea what is going on inside a person.???Most people during times feel alone, feel they are the only one going through this, they are not. That is empowering, knowing people are around you supporting you, most people get great results with a sense of purpose and community. ???As a nutrition coach I don’t tell people what to do with their body and neither should you, this is a decision people have to make themselves. You don’t get a say in that, as they don’t get a say with your body.??If you want to build people up around you and empower them? Respect their decision.??If you have had this said to you before and you find it hard to handle maybe you can reply with ‘I appreciate your opinion, but you are not me. I am not doing this because I hate myself, I am doing this because I like myself, for improvement, for my health and wellbeing because I want to love myself even more’.??This blog could be broken down into about 5 different topics which I will speak about in other weeks. so my message is to support people, help them by listening and understanding, don’t judge people, you have no idea what someone is going through, but you can learn if you’re willing to listen.

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July 22, 2025
If you live in Wynnum or Capalaba , chances are you’ve seen a bootcamp in action — high-intensity sessions in parks, with lots of burpees, sprints, and shouting. While bootcamps can be a fun way to get sweaty, there’s a reason more people are choosing structured strength training instead. At Rebuild, we often meet people who’ve jumped from one bootcamp to another, chasing results they never quite achieve, or can’t maintain. Here’s why strength training, not bootcamp-style fitness, is the smarter long-term approach for your health and body. 1. Progress Over Punishment Bootcamps often focus on burning calories and pushing people to their limits every session. It feels intense — but it’s usually random. There’s no plan beyond “go hard”. Strength training is different. It’s measured, progressive, and adaptable . Whether you’re lifting a barbell or doing bodyweight movements, the goal is to build skill, strength, and confidence over time. You're not punished for where you're at — you're coached toward where you want to be. 2. Stronger Muscles = Better Results Cardio-heavy bootcamps might help you lose weight quickly, but they rarely help you build muscle, and muscle is the key to long-term fat loss, strength, and mobility . When you train with resistance (weights, bands, or bodyweight), your body becomes more efficient. You burn more calories at rest, move better, and feel more capable in everyday life. And unlike bootcamps, strength training actually preserves lean mass while you're in a calorie deficit — which matters if your goal is body composition, not just weight loss. 3. Individual Coaching Matters Most bootcamps have one instructor yelling instructions to a big group. There’s rarely time to check your technique, let alone adjust for injuries, experience, or confidence levels. At Rebuild, our group sessions are coach-led and purpose-built . We take time to teach proper form, scale movements to your ability, and track your progress. You're not just surviving a workout — you’re learning how to move better and train smarter. 4. It’s Not Just About Today’s Workout Bootcamps often lack structure. You show up, do something exhausting, and leave. There’s no continuity or long-term planning. Strength training follows a programmed approach , meaning each week builds on the last. You’ll have sessions designed to improve specific movements and outcomes — whether that’s lifting more weight, increasing core strength, or mastering your first pull-up. That structure keeps you consistent, motivated, and injury-free. 5. Sustainability Over Shock Tactics If you’re tired of the “go hard or go home” mentality, strength training is for you. It’s adaptable to all ages, bodies, and goals . You’ll get fitter, stronger, and more confident — without burning out or breaking down. Ready to train with purpose? If you're looking for something better than a bootcamp in Wynnum or Capalaba , join us at Rebuild. We coach real people — not fitness models — to get real results. 📍 Structured training 📍 Expert coaches 📍 Community that has your back You don’t need to be fit to start. You just need to start.
July 22, 2025
A lot of people have completed a marathon but how many people have collapsed at 40km?

Sometimes you do everything right, and shit still doesn’t go to plan.
 Last weekend I ran in the Gold Coast Marathon, my first ever marathon. I trained properly, my body felt relatively good (all things considered when preparing to run 42.2km), I carb-loaded, and my race day nutrition was dialled in.
 I was ready.
 We set off. Jess and the kids met me at different points on the course with signs, the atmosphere was great. I loved seeing the kids with their signs. Pacing felt on point. The first 21km? Easy. I felt great. Maybe I should’ve drunk more water, but I didn’t think too much of it at the time.
 At 25km, I felt slower, but pace wise I was still holding well. I’d kept telling myself throughout the day "The race starts at 30km." And let me tell you, it does.
 By 30km, the sun was out, and I was starting to struggle. My watch started glitching so I had no real idea of my splits. I thought I was slowing down a lot (turns out I wasn’t), but the effort to keep the same pace suddenly felt 10x harder.
 I hadn’t taken on enough water. Usually, I can get away with lower fluids. Not this time. Dehydration crept in. hard.
 At 35km I was in survival mode, one foot in front of the other, flicking between moments of pain and little short lived waves of “let’s go.” But by 39km I was delirious. I could see the finish line, I hit the 40km mark (where I thought enjoyment might return to finish), and I collapsed.
 I was gone. Scary stuff.
 The last few hundred metres were a complete blur. All I remember is the crowd, the medics, and about five paramedics suddenly around me. I was vomiting, shaking, confused, in and out of it. I had this overwhelming, indescribable feeling, and honestly, for a moment, I thought I could die.
 My memory went. I couldn’t recall the day, the year, where I lived, or how to spell. I only knew who Jess and the kids were, and that I didn’t want them to see me with wires in me. 
 My temperature had hit 40°C. Blood pressure crashed. Thankfully, the medics and paramedics were incredible, I had a drip running into me within 10 to 15 minutes.
 As I already knew, I’m stubborn. I wanted to run it all. Not walk. Not stop and breathe and In hindsight, I should have. 
 Seems like my mind was just a bit stronger than my body on the day. I never thought I could push myself there in all honesty. 

Am I gutted? Of course, I was only 2km away but I gave it everything I had on that day. Heat stroke, exhaustion, and dehydration got me. 

I am always reminded here of the quote ‘The man in the arena’ look it up if you need. 
 Will I run 42.2km again? Yes, I feel I need to. 

Would I do things differently, now I’ve run 40km under race conditions? You bet, lessons learnt. Always lessons. Never be scared to not succeed. Be scared to never try in the first place. 
 We go again.
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