Aesthetics Does Not Directly Equal Performance, Health or Happiness

Caitlyn Davey • July 8, 2025

Humans do this all the time, are humans pillows? Do we treat our bodies like we treat our pillows? Are people walking around looking the part and feeling like an absolute turd? A couple of weeks ago we moved into a new house and of course, Jess wanted to buy new ‘things’ for the house. One of those new things being pillows for our living room. We have the same sofa but I mean we have gone from white walls to cream walls so you can see why we needed new pillows. (I can’t but emoji’s on emails but I hope you can picture the face I’m pulling) Jess said we need new pillows, I said we don’t need new pillows, so we clearly went to buy new pillows. As we were walking around the shop, I was picking up amazingly comfy pillows, I was performing Sleep testsBetween the leg squeezesBackrests comfortArmchair comfortIs it easy wipeable when I inevitably spill something?As I showed Jess my choices, she looked at me like I’d farted in her milk. The face of disgust. They are awful. My heart was ripped out. We had a look at her choice, she was telling me about how nice it looked, fancy bits hanging from it, contrasting pallets with our other pillows (Which is important, I mean of course it is, it’s a pillow, it needs friends…) I started to perform my tests. Felt like a pillow from Alcatraz Felt like I was spooning a milk trayThis thing was so hard it would kick you off the sofa Arm test = Shit Water would stain it. Jess “It’s not all about the comfort you know, it has to look good”Well well well, I am triggered at this point, but after we brought the terrible pillows (Of course we did) and my emotions settled I started to think. Humans do this all the time, are humans pillows? Do we treat our bodies like we treat our pillows? Are people walking around looking the part and feeling like an absolute turd? Yes, yes people are. People are walking around way leaner than they need to/should be in order to impress others when inside they are unhappy, unhealthy and performing like shit. Aesthetics does not directly equal performance. Aesthetics does not directly equal health.Aesthetics will not directly make you happy. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look better, hey I make a living out of it BUT there is much more to a story about creating a happy and healthy human for the future. I have dieted humans down to very low body fats in the past because they wanted to push and see where they can take their bodies. It’s self experimental but possibly the wrong move. I have also done it myself. When I was at my leanest, I was under-eating massively, I felt depleted, my stress was through the roof, my sex drive was low, my performance was the worst it has been, my appetite was terrible, I was sleeping poorly but hey I looked good! NOT WORTH IT. But at the time because it was a process, I felt everything was fine. Everything felt normal and I didn’t know what was happening physically and mentally. It’s very easy to think how you are feeling now is ‘normal’. A lot of the time, it is not. Some women are walking around without their menstrual cycle for months maybe even years to have a photo shoot with a 6 pack so they can post on Instagram. Where have we gone wrong in society that people throw away their health to push the body to an extreme to make other people happy! Remember health is more than physical, it is more than the gym, it is more than food. When we work with clients we look at all parts of their health. Physical Emotional Social Intellectual Psychological Economical In closing what I am trying to say is, don’t sacrifice your happiness in order to look the way you think will bring you happiness.                        

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A lot of people have completed a marathon but how many people have collapsed at 40km?

Sometimes you do everything right, and shit still doesn’t go to plan.
 Last weekend I ran in the Gold Coast Marathon, my first ever marathon. I trained properly, my body felt relatively good (all things considered when preparing to run 42.2km), I carb-loaded, and my race day nutrition was dialled in.
 I was ready.
 We set off. Jess and the kids met me at different points on the course with signs, the atmosphere was great. I loved seeing the kids with their signs. Pacing felt on point. The first 21km? Easy. I felt great. Maybe I should’ve drunk more water, but I didn’t think too much of it at the time.
 At 25km, I felt slower, but pace wise I was still holding well. I’d kept telling myself throughout the day "The race starts at 30km." And let me tell you, it does.
 By 30km, the sun was out, and I was starting to struggle. My watch started glitching so I had no real idea of my splits. I thought I was slowing down a lot (turns out I wasn’t), but the effort to keep the same pace suddenly felt 10x harder.
 I hadn’t taken on enough water. Usually, I can get away with lower fluids. Not this time. Dehydration crept in. hard.
 At 35km I was in survival mode, one foot in front of the other, flicking between moments of pain and little short lived waves of “let’s go.” But by 39km I was delirious. I could see the finish line, I hit the 40km mark (where I thought enjoyment might return to finish), and I collapsed.
 I was gone. Scary stuff.
 The last few hundred metres were a complete blur. All I remember is the crowd, the medics, and about five paramedics suddenly around me. I was vomiting, shaking, confused, in and out of it. I had this overwhelming, indescribable feeling, and honestly, for a moment, I thought I could die.
 My memory went. I couldn’t recall the day, the year, where I lived, or how to spell. I only knew who Jess and the kids were, and that I didn’t want them to see me with wires in me. 
 My temperature had hit 40°C. Blood pressure crashed. Thankfully, the medics and paramedics were incredible, I had a drip running into me within 10 to 15 minutes.
 As I already knew, I’m stubborn. I wanted to run it all. Not walk. Not stop and breathe and In hindsight, I should have. 
 Seems like my mind was just a bit stronger than my body on the day. I never thought I could push myself there in all honesty. 

Am I gutted? Of course, I was only 2km away but I gave it everything I had on that day. Heat stroke, exhaustion, and dehydration got me. 

I am always reminded here of the quote ‘The man in the arena’ look it up if you need. 
 Will I run 42.2km again? Yes, I feel I need to. 

Would I do things differently, now I’ve run 40km under race conditions? You bet, lessons learnt. Always lessons. Never be scared to not succeed. Be scared to never try in the first place. 
 We go again.
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